What inspired you to start your etiquette consulting business?
Growing up, my parents emphasized manners, and I was raised to treat everyone with respect and kindness. “Cleanliness is next to godliness” was our house motto. In 2000, I volunteered to teach etiquette to an all-girls group at my church. When I saw the positive impact the classes made on the girls’ self-confidence, I knew I had discovered my passion. In 2007, I officially launched Nsideout Etiquette.

Why Nsideout?
The name Nsideout was inspired by the idea that etiquette is more than knowing what fork to use, how to introduce yourself, and having good posture. Etiquette is about demonstrating good character and treating others with respect.

Why is it important to have good manners?
Good manners are essential to being successful in every area of life. Knowing what to do in social and business situations gives you a competitive edge. I firmly believe that manners should not just be practiced in formal situations but also on a daily basis: at home, school, church and work.

What do you say to people who think being concerned with etiquette is “stuffy” or only for snobs?
Etiquette is for everyone regardless of your socioeconomic status. The notion that teaching good manners is a luxury for rich people is not true. It is a necessity for every person.

Do you have a mentor when it comes to etiquette? A “manners icon,” if you will?
My mother is the epitome of elegance and grace. My father could write a book on grooming and hygiene (laughs). He is the most thoughtful man I know.

OK, on to fashion etiquette...I get so many questions on my blog on that topic. Is it bad manners to wear white as a guest to a wedding?
It’s probably not a good idea, considering the bride is the focal point. You don’t want to be distracting or take attention away from her. It’s her day!

Should you only wear black to a funeral?
No, other darker colors are appropriate, such as dark gray or navy. However, if you are a pallbearer, you should wear black. Again, you want to be considerate and respectful of the occasion. I don’t think funerals are the time to make fashion statements.

Are there any occasions where sleeveless (for a woman) is not appropriate attire?
Some country clubs have guidelines against women wearing sleeveless tops without collars. Also, courtroom attire should not be sleeveless. Typically, sleeveless is appropriate as long as the fit is not too tight and the length is not too short. The rule of the thumb is to always check with the host to be sure of the attire. Michele Obama may make this style more acceptable.

When would it be appropriate for a man to wear a sport coat but no tie?
In dressy casual and business casual settings. When is a tie always required? Black tie and semiformal events.

If a party invitation says “black tie,” is a male guest required to wear a tux?
Yes. Does a woman need to wear a long gown or would short be acceptable? Short dressy cocktail dress or formal evening dress is acceptable.

You are wearing red today. Any rules on red?
I’m not a fan of steadfast rules on certain things, but I would say only wear red when you are confident and don’t mind attention being drawn to yourself.